Dec 23, 2016
Erika Ettin is an online dating coach who left
her corporate finance job to help men and women develop
relationships.
Her business is called A Little Nudge,
because she gives her clients the nudge and the help they
need to get out there and start dating! In our discussion, she
shares how and why she became an online dating coach, client
success stories, as well as dos and don’ts of dating.
Her clients range in age from 22 to 72, with an average age of 44.
If you’re thinking about jumping into the dating game or if you
know someone who is, this episode will be helpful as well as
entertaining!
Listen to our chat to hear Erika
share:
- Her supporting role in an
online dater's life
- Why it’s so challenging to
write your own online dating profile
- Why she created A Little
Nudge
- The difference between a
high-end matchmaker and an online dating coach
- How she helps her clients
develop a fuller life beyond dating
- The link between dating advice
and self-image
- Why people have such a hard
time finding the right partner
- How to get started with online
dating (when you have no experience)
- Recommended online dating
websites
- Unrealistic expectations and
how they can damage a potential relationship
- The importance of dating with
a new mindset and fresh perspective
- The importance of being NATO:
Not Attached to Outcome
- How she ghostwrites responses
for some of her clients
- Why women shouldn't offer to
pay for dinner
- Tips for staying safe
- Going
with your gut and doing what you feel comfortable with
- The importance of auditing
your profile
- The pitfalls of lying on your
online profile
Quotes from Erika:
“It’s all about marketing
yourself!"
"For whatever reason, people think
when it comes to marketing themselves, they don’t have to put the
time in, they don’t have to put the energy in. But that’s exactly
the opposite of what you should do, You’re not marketing a product,
you’re not marketing a service, you’re marketing YOU."
“I call myself ‘educated-impulsive,' because I’m
fairly impulsive but I’ve done the research first. But, once I’m
ready, I jump.”
"Don’t use online dating as a
band-aid, ego-boost, or something to fill the void. Do it only when
you’re ready, because it’s frustrating for the other person if they
like you and you’re just not emotionally there yet."
“Don’t think you’re the
lucky one who is going to bump into someone at the airport and then
it’s love at first sight and you walk off into the sunset. That
happens so infrequently! Just like finding a new job, finding a
partner is hard work and it should be because it’s really
important.”
"I tell people to go on first dates
with no expectations - not positive, not negative, just see what it
is to meet a new person.”
“It does take work. You know, Rome
wasn’t built in a day. Don’t compare yourself to anyone because you
don’t know your friend’s standards. You don’t know what goes on
behind closed doors. Just worry about yourself.”
Contact Erika: Website: www.alittlenudge.com where you can find her video series,
90-Days to Dating
Success
Facebook: A Little Nudge
Twitter: @ALittleNudge
Linkedin: Erika Ettin
Contact Lisa: Lisa@EverBetterU.com